Who Comes First? by Rick Cano | Nov 20, 2017 | Choice Theory, Choices, dementia, Dr. William Glasser, Judith Ashley Romance, Reality Therapy | 2 comments Judith is the author of The Sacred Women 2 Comments Maggie Lynch on November 20, 2017 at 10:38 pm I love the idea of asking these open-ended questions that allow for more than a binary choice. That is one of the things I find hard to do in the heat of the moment. I always look for the black or white answer, instead of the grey answer–the one that opens the door to multiple possibilities instead of closing a door to one. Thanks for this. Great books to incorporate this as an underlying theme. Reply Judith Ashley on November 21, 2017 at 4:03 pm The "If there was a way" question opens the mind to finding a solution to the problem instead of focusing on the barriers. When I first learned it a couple decades ago, the example used was "If there was a way to lose weight and yet eat whatever you want, are you interested in finding it?" Dr. William Glasser believed and taught that a "true conflict" was a situation where no matter your choice you lost something/someone important to you. When looked at from that perspective many issues we have are not true conflicts but situations where we just don't like our choices. Because I've been a student of Dr. Glasser since the late 1960's and on his teaching faculty since 1980, I've internalized the concepts of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory which is why I they are embedded in my books. I tell people who are interested in or know RT/CT that my books teach the concepts in subtle ways. Those open-ended questions are perfect examples. Thanks for discussing these concepts with me, Maggie. Reply Submit a Comment Cancel replyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment * Name * Email * Website Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.