Judith is the author of The Sacred Women
Judith is the author of The Sacred Women
Judith is the author of The Sacred Women
Judith is the author of The Sacred Women
Judith is the author of The Sacred Women
Judith is the author of The Sacred Women
I love the idea of asking these open-ended questions that allow for more than a binary choice. That is one of the things I find hard to do in the heat of the moment. I always look for the black or white answer, instead of the grey answer–the one that opens the door to multiple possibilities instead of closing a door to one.
Thanks for this. Great books to incorporate this as an underlying theme.
The "If there was a way" question opens the mind to finding a solution to the problem instead of focusing on the barriers. When I first learned it a couple decades ago, the example used was "If there was a way to lose weight and yet eat whatever you want, are you interested in finding it?"
Dr. William Glasser believed and taught that a "true conflict" was a situation where no matter your choice you lost something/someone important to you. When looked at from that perspective many issues we have are not true conflicts but situations where we just don't like our choices.
Because I've been a student of Dr. Glasser since the late 1960's and on his teaching faculty since 1980, I've internalized the concepts of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory which is why I they are embedded in my books. I tell people who are interested in or know RT/CT that my books teach the concepts in subtle ways. Those open-ended questions are perfect examples.
Thanks for discussing these concepts with me, Maggie.